Safe words are an essential part to BDSM play, it is a way to ensure that the submissive is safe and also to find boundaries.
Most common is to hear a traffic light system being used:
- Green – Everything is ok, it is quite enjoyable, I would like more, I can take more etc.
- Amber – You are approaching limits, don’t go any harder.
- Red – Stop immediately.
If the word Red is spoken at any time then play must stop and the dominant should go into aftercare mode, make sure the submissive is ok and provide whatever support is needed.
This is pretty self explanatory and a very safe way to play. Other words can be used but these should be clarified before play starts.
Just a short little post for explanation purposes. 🙂