Restraint

Restraint can play quite a large role in some BDSM scenes. It has the power to be used to achieve different effects, it can be used to:

  • Show dominance – The Dominant can use restraint as a way of showing that they are in charge.
  • Surrender control – By allowing themselves to be restrained a submissive is able to surrender all control and show trust in their dominant.
  • Deprivation – Restraint will prevent the submissive from moving, therefore depriving them of being able to touch their dominant (or themselves) This give the dominant control over touching and play enabling them to bring the submissive close to orgasm then depriving them from orgasm.
  • Create desire – The more you can’t have something you want it more, this is common with restraint.
  • Show/create obedience – Present in collared scenarios, amongst others, if the submissive is obedient during restraint then they may be rewarded.
  • Heighten senses – As the Submissive will have no control over where the dominant touches their senses will be heightened, especially if wearing a blindfold.
  • Humiliation – used during humiliation scenes in order to display control, possibly to make somebody watch another activity without being able to leave/move/join in.
  • Torture – Restraint during torture prevents the submissive from moving too much. torture can be seen in 2 ways, sensory torture i.e. tickling or orgasm deprivation, or  torture involving pain.

As well as the multiple reasons why you might want to involve restraint during play there are also many types of restraint which can be used, some will be better for different things than others, and you may choose a way of restraint specifically for a desired effect.

Physical Restraint

This involves the dominant using hands or their body weight to restrain a submissive. This can be integrated into any sex session. Include holding hands down on the bed or above head, one arm behind back, both arms behind back, legs in the air and physically lying or sitting on the submissive.

Handcuffs

Handcuffs can be used to restrain hands together either in front or behind, can be used to cuff submissive to the bed or elsewhere, can also be use in police based role-play. I will cover handcuffs more in another post sometime.

Under-bed Restraints

Generally in the form of soft cuffs, these go under the mattress to allow the submissive to have all 4 limbs restrained and essentially tied down to the bed, severely restricting movement. This is a good form of restraint to use for teasing your partner/submissive, sensory play and orgasm deprivation.

Rope

Rope play is an art form in its self, can be time-consuming and very intricate, or can be simple, i.e. just the wrists and/or ankles tied simply. I will cover this later in another post. However it is important to note safety when playing with rope, lots of practise is required first, never leave a rope restrained person unattended and always have a decent pair of scissors to hand as an emergency way of releasing. Rope can also be used to suspend someone however this is not advised unless you have had proper training as it can be very dangerous.

Ties/scarfs

Both create good make shift soft wrist restraints, other materials found at home can also be used

Cable Ties

Cheap easy to used, can be used as handcuffs, however the can be a little harsh and will be painful if the submissive struggles.

Spreader Bars

A long, (usually) metal bar with a cuff either end for ankles, this prevents the submissive from closing their legs. Sometime spreader bars also have 2 additional cuffs in the middle to also tie the hands to if desired.

Collar and Leash

Used to display obedience and sometime humiliation. where the submissive wears a physical collar and lead and is “walked” be their dominant.

Bondage Tape

Made of a plastic-type self-adhesive, but non-sticky material. It sticks to itself to secure. Flexible and durable, also reusable. Comes in many colours and is also inexpensive. Bondage tape can be used for restraint anywhere on the body and can also be used for dressing up. Much more suitable for play than traditional sticky tape as there is no risk of pulling hairs and it is also much more aesthetically pleasing.

Im sure there are also more types of restraint out their and I will update this when they pop into my head.

Have fun all, but please be safe about it, all restraint techniques require knowledge of the technique, a quick escape plan and trust (that goes both ways.)

Kink x

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