I realise that I have mentioned the term vanilla a couple of times and that some of you may not really understand what it mean.
So vanilla is used in both the swinging and BDSM world to basically mean people who are not involved in the lifestyle. Can be used to refer to people in monogamous relationships or people who just don’t like / arn’t interested in / haven’t discovered BDSM. Not used in a derogatory way, just a quick way of describing.
There is nothing wrong with being “vanilla” everybody likes different things and thats cool. We shouldn’t all be the same, that would be boring. Also, even I like a little bit of vanilla every now and again. I just can’t see be leaving the kinky side of life anytime soon.
Just remember to have fun, whatever you are doing.